Your sexuality is yours to understand, explore, and define.
Sexuality is shaped by our bodies, relationships, experiences, beliefs, and desires. It can be a source of pleasure, intimacy, curiosity, and connection. It can also bring uncertainty, frustration, shame, or pain.
Therapy offers a place to explore these experiences with curiosity and care, without a predetermined idea of what your sexuality should look like.
For some people, sexuality has become a source of anxiety, shame, frustration, or pain. Perhaps you feel numb or disconnected from your body, your desire, or a part of yourself that once felt alive—or that never felt safe enough to emerge. Maybe you carry shame you didn't choose, inherited from family, religion, culture, or experiences that taught you your sexuality was dirty, dangerous, or wrong. Maybe your boundaries were crossed, your trust was violated, or your body came to feel like something other than your own.
Perhaps you learned to perform rather than to feel, to give rather than to receive, to focus on the orgasm, the release, the finish line—until the experience itself began to disappear. You may find yourself caught in your thoughts, struggling to relax, worrying that you take too long, or wondering why pleasure seems easier for someone else. Maybe your desire feels too high, too low, or simply different from what you believe it should be.
For others, sexuality has changed. The demands of everyday life, childbirth, injury, illness, or a difficult relationship experience may have altered how intimacy feels. Sex may have become predictable, pressured, or a source of quiet grief rather than pleasure and connection. You may want to understand your relationship with pornography, masturbation, fantasies, or sexual habits that no longer feel satisfying.
And sometimes, nothing is wrong. You may simply be curious about your sexuality—wanting to discover what brings you pleasure, become more comfortable expressing yourself, explore fantasies, or experience greater presence, playfulness, and intimacy. For some, sexuality is also a source of creativity, vitality, spirituality, or profound connection with themselves or another person.
Whatever brings you here, our work begins with understanding your experiences and what you want for yourself. A satisfying sexual life is not defined by frequency, orgasm, performance, or particular practices. It is shaped by what feels meaningful, pleasurable, consensual, and right for you.
There is no one right way to experience sexuality.
Sexuality involves much more than what we think about sex. It can involve sensation, emotion, imagination, vulnerability, learned expectations, and the ways we relate to ourselves and others.
Our work may begin with understanding your sexual history, the messages you've received, and the experiences that have shaped your relationship with desire, pleasure, and intimacy.
We may pay attention to what happens when you feel attraction, excitement, discomfort, pressure, or vulnerability. Through breathwork, mindfulness, vocal expression, gentle movement, and awareness of bodily sensations, we can develop greater familiarity with your responses and expand your capacity to experience and express what you feel.
We may also explore the different parts of yourself that emerge around sexuality: a part that longs for intimacy, one that feels afraid, one that wants to please, one that feels protective, or one that is curious about something unfamiliar. Rather than forcing these experiences into a single explanation, we work to understand them with compassion and curiosity.
And sometimes the work is practical. We may examine expectations around arousal and orgasm, practice expressing preferences and boundaries, learn to recognize and communicate consent, or develop ways to approach intimacy with less pressure and greater choice.
I offer psychotherapy that welcomes sexuality and sexual concerns, informed by additional training in embodied sexuality and relationship work. Sessions are conversational and may include education, reflection, and guided awareness practices. There is no physical touch or sexual activity during sessions.
We determine together which approaches are appropriate and meaningful for you.
Slow. Curious. Entirely yours.
Creating a sexual relationship that works for you.
Sexual intimacy can be a source of pleasure, playfulness, affection, and connection. It can also become complicated.
One partner may want sex more frequently than the other. Someone may feel pressure to initiate, perform, or respond in a particular way. Desire may have changed after childbirth, illness, stress, betrayal, or years of difficult interactions. A person may feel ashamed of what they want, uncertain how to ask for it, or afraid of disappointing their partner.
Sometimes sexuality becomes associated with resentment, obligation, rejection, or loneliness. Sometimes partners care deeply for one another but have different preferences, expectations, or understandings of intimacy.
In our work, we can learn to talk more openly about what feels pleasurable, uncomfortable, exciting, or off-limits. We may examine how partners initiate and respond to sexual invitations, how they communicate consent, how they handle differences in desire, and how they respond when one person says no.
We can also make room for pleasure, creativity, tenderness, and play. Rather than focusing only on what isn't working, we consider what each person genuinely enjoys and how to create more opportunities for mutually desired intimacy.
Sometimes this means discovering new ways of being together. Couples may want to move beyond familiar routines, experiment with different forms of affection or sensuality, explore fantasies and power dynamics, or find ways to experience pleasure that accommodate changing bodies, preferences, and capacities. The intention is not novelty for its own sake, but creating a sexual relationship that feels alive, mutually enjoyable, and genuinely their own.
Some differences call for compromise or new agreements. Others may require acceptance, difficult decisions, or a deeper examination of compatibility. The goal is not to convince either person to want something they do not want.
I welcome individuals and couples across sexual orientations and relationship structures, including consensually non-monogamous relationships. Our work is guided by honesty, mutual respect, consent, and the well-being of everyone involved.
What we can explore together.
Desire, Arousal & Pleasure
Understanding desire and sexual responses, cultivating enjoyment, and exploring concerns about arousal, orgasm, or sexual functioning.
Shame, Beliefs & Sexual Values
Examining messages from family, religion, culture, or past experiences and clarifying your own beliefs and values.
Embodiment, Performance & Presence
Moving from performing sexuality to experiencing it more fully—developing awareness of sensation, breath, movement, and the capacity to be present with pleasure.
Sexual Expression & Exploration
Exploring sensuality, fantasies, erotic interests, preferences, creativity, and ways of expressing sexuality.
Sexual Intimacy in Relationships
Navigating differences in desire, healing resentment or betrayal, and rediscovering pleasure, intimacy, and aliveness together.
Pornography & Sexual Habits
Understanding how pornography, masturbation, or repetitive sexual patterns may be shaping expectations, desire, presence, and connection—and whether these patterns align with your values.
Consent & Sexual Communication
Expressing desires, communicating preferences, setting boundaries, responding to rejection, and understanding consent.
Sexual Trauma & Recovery
Processing unwanted or harmful experiences, restoring a sense of safety and choice, and rebuilding trust in yourself, your body, and your boundaries.
Note: Some sexual concerns may also involve medical conditions, medications, hormonal changes, or pelvic health. When appropriate, I can support you in understanding the emotional and relational dimensions of these experiences while encouraging medical evaluation or specialized care.
A place for honest conversations, without shame.
Sexuality can be deeply personal. Even in close relationships, there may be experiences, questions, desires, or fears that have never been spoken aloud.
You deserve a place where these conversations can happen with dignity, curiosity, and care.
Alongside my clinical training as a psychotherapist, I have pursued additional education in sexuality, embodiment, and relationships, including certification through the VITA Institute. I bring this background to our work with an appreciation for the many ways people experience sexuality and the importance of approaching each person without assumptions.
You do not need to arrive knowing exactly what you want, what something means, or how to talk about it. We can begin wherever you are.